The social network can be a bit scary if you are not too careful. Not everything that's in that little head of yours can be said aloud so sometimes, we decide to write it down in ways like this blog, a status update on facebook or twitter. A lot of people do that, mostly on twitter. Tweeting about their current feeling, their rants, what they're doing at the moment, what's been going on in their lives. So if one person reads your tweets and decides to put a connection in between whatever you posted, they could come up with what they think is the "story of your life".
I admit, I am guilty of doing that but I am not stupid to not know if a certain post will be offensive or not.
I just find it also funny how people can be oh so friendly online but when they actually meet eye to eye, that "closeness" online suddenly disappears and you instantly realize that you don't really know a thing about this person. I, also, have been guilty of that. :p
In my opinion, Facebook and twitter also took out the element of mystery in getting to know a certain person. Yes, you have met, you have talked, but the moment you go online, you immediately start searching for him/her online in facebook or twitter or wherever. You start knowing somebody from facts in the net, which you are not even sure if those were true.
Here comes the judgmental person in us. Of course, we tend to believe what we see or read and try to put the puzzles together. So for the initial part, a certain person in question, already lost points in the departments that are not interesting for the person doing the "research".
Some people may tell me, they do it so they will know what are his/her interests so that gives them at least an idea what to talk about (or pretend to be interested about).
The idea of knowing somebody or just talking is to open up to each other and find out what are your similarities/differences are on the spot.
If the person I'm talking to knows stuff I haven't even talked to him about, that would totally not impress me. Why? Because first, it's a bit creepy that he gets information about me through my facebook or twitter account and uses it as basis for questions he will ask. In my opinion, stalker much. And second, he didn't even try to exert effort to get to know me face to face. He preferred the easy way, which is another term for "not really interested"
Or they could always give the "I'm nervous to meet you so I googled you, and searched for your facebook profile" crap. It's up to the ladies if they believe that. :)
But one can't avoid doing that in this time of fast-paced technology development. Even the place you live is not safe because of Google maps. :p
To be honest, I haven't actually met someone who did that to me, I'm talking about getting to know me in a more than platonic way.
So maybe yes, if the time comes I meet someone and get the chance to know him better, I might actually look at his profile in facebook. But I am not stupid to base everything and rely on what I will see in his profile. And I will definitely not base my actions and my likes and pattern it with his likes and dislikes.
In the end, we may get panicky and resort to the most accessible thing ever invented for mankind, the internet, because of certain situations but the important thing is, be yourself. Be your best self. If he doesn't like the way you are, then it's his loss. If he does, then good for you.
Remember, you can not be at the losing end when all you are being is yourself.
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